My 19-year-old daughter and I have this unbreakable bond, this connection, and it’s the most precious gift of all.
There is this trust, liability, we know that we can count on each other for everything. This trust was very important through her teenage years.
The wonderful truth is that we, as parents, can have this level of relationship with our children.
I’m giving you some tips from my journey, and I hope it will help you.
Since my daughter was born, I started doing everything with her. All my daily routines included her. As a single mother, I decided that she was never going to be alone, she would have always company. I talked a lot! It sounds a bit odd I know, but a had monologues about what we were doing, where we were going, everything.
This wasn’t seen as a good thing, some people would tell me that she had to learn to stay alone, to cry herself to sleep, but I couldn’t do that. I followed my heart, So, I’d stay with her until she went to sleep. Always together, I said, since the day she was born.
As she was growing, going to kinder garden, we started new routines so she could have that safety. Every weekday my daughter new that I would pick her up, go to the park, have a walk, go home.
Then we would play after it was bath time. I would prepare dinner, and she was there with me. She would have dinner, then go to bed, read stories, and then go to sleep.
This made her feel safe.
3.The importance of telling the truth
Never to lie or omit. This was and still is the thing I value the most. I wanted my daughter to understand that this is the base of any kind of relationship.
We knew that we would do everything not to hurt one another, and there was no way we were going to break that trust.
This step was very important because it opened up the door for an honest conversation about any subject.
If you’re a parent, you can relate to this item. Along they’re growth, we find ourselves having the most unexpected conversations with our children. Some of them were quite amusing, others very odd!
I was affrayed to give her too much information, there is no right or wrong way, so I decided that was in my daughter’s best interest to get the right information from me, and feel comfortable enough to asked all the questions than to have incorrect or missed information from other sources. Thankfully it was a smart choice!
We did, and still, do, the most unusual things together! We created amazing memories, and my daughter talks about them with so much love and enthusiasm, that just makes my day!
We have our cartoon night together, and series night. We have junk food day, we go to the beach when it’s raining, every day, no matter the season, we take a 30-minute walk. The great part of this ritual is that we started it since the first time I took her out for a walk when she as just a baby.
Create memories with your children, make every day count, have your special time together every day!
Time really flies, live it to the fullest!
Thank you for meeting me halfway.