They say that forgiving is a selfless act, that you have a big heart and that you’re able to forgive and move on with your life.
I don’t know about you, but I had a hard time when it comes to forgiving someone that actually hurt me and had no remorse about it! It was something that was constantly weighing on my mind, that frustration, how dare they to move on with their lives and be happy after being so mean to me?
Then I read something that made total sense to me, and it changes my mind and I finally moved on!
Just so you know, I do have a good heart, just like you, but I deserve to put myself first and well as my happiness, and so do you!
This is how I deal with forgiving:
First of all, I realised that I was the one that was keeping these people that hurt me still in my life! Just by having that frustration regarding them, just by thinking that life was being unfair, after all, they were living happily, and I was irritated. That had to change!
How could I just let go it go an move on with my life?
This so easy, and it really works: Learn to forgive them in order to let them go!
This is not a selfless act, this is a purging act!
To forgive, in my perception, it means to be able to have no feelings regarding those that hurt you! This requires some work, but it’s totally achievable. Value yourself more, put yourself in a higher state of mind, look at the big picture, and as soon as you begin to have any kind of negative feelings, make sure to immediately focus on something positive about your life!
We are the ones that decide who gets to be by our side in this amazing journey!
Of course, there will be disappointments, people will fail us, just be wise enough to understand that it’s not you who has a problem, that they didn’t do this to you, they do this to everybody, it’s their lack of character, not yours!
You are a good person, with a good heart, that has the ability to understand that you are better off without that kind of people in your life!
Do this for you, because you deserve the best, and that includes the best people, so just forgive and let go!
No hard feelings, no remorse, make yourself a priority and enjoy this amazing life!
Thank you for meeting me halfway.