How to Deal with Forgiving

They say that forgiving is a selfless act, that you have a big heart and that you’re able to forgive and move on with your life.

I don’t know about you, but I had a hard time when it comes to forgiving someone that actually hurt me and had no remorse about it! It was something that was constantly weighing on my mind, that frustration, how dare they to move on with their lives and be happy after being so mean to me?

Then I read something that made total sense to me, and it changes my mind and I finally moved on!

Just so you know, I do have a good heart, just like you, but I deserve to put myself first and well as my happiness, and so do you!

This is how I deal with forgiving:

First of all, I realised that I was the one that was keeping these people that hurt me still in my life! Just by having that frustration regarding them, just by thinking that life was being unfair, after all, they were living happily, and I was irritated. That had to change!

How could I just let go it go an move on with my life?

This so easy, and it really works: Learn to forgive them in order to let them go!

This is not a selfless act, this is a purging act!

To forgive, in my perception, it means to be able to have no feelings regarding those that hurt you! This requires some work, but it’s totally achievable. Value yourself more, put yourself in a higher state of mind, look at the big picture, and as soon as you begin to have any kind of negative feelings, make sure to immediately focus on something positive about your life!

We are the ones that decide who gets to be by our side in this amazing journey!

Of course, there will be disappointments, people will fail us, just be wise enough to understand that it’s not you who has a problem, that they didn’t do this to you, they do this to everybody, it’s their lack of character, not yours!

You are a good person, with a good heart, that has the ability to understand that you are better off without that kind of people in your life!

Do this for you, because you deserve the best, and that includes the best people, so just forgive and let go!

No hard feelings, no remorse, make yourself a priority and enjoy this amazing life!

Thank you for meeting me halfway.

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Create your Tribe

We don’t choose our blood family, that is a given fact. How we relate with each other within the family, it’s a totally different story.

If you have that amazing kind of relationship with all of your family members, when you all have each other’s back, I congratulate you!

If you don’t, welcome to the group.

My daughter and I have that connection, and it’s amazing but that was it. So we created our own tribe, our (no blood-related) family!

If you are feeling that there is no connection with your blood family, it ‘s time for you to take action and do something positive about it.

This is how we did it.

1.Mindset

This is the first step. Understand that you can change the current situation, you have the ability to change that feeling of loneliness, of not being protected, into a mindset of knowing how to handle your blood-related family, and focusing on finding you’re own tribe.

2. Take action 

Among your friends, have the wisdom to separate the ones that like you, but aren’t too thrilled when you accomplish something positive. Or the ones that like to make a joke about someone else, with no regard what so ever about people’s feelings.

Keep close to your heart that group of friends that never left you when you were feeling down or going through a hard time. The numbers will be small, but those are your friends for life!

3. Nurture relationships

Be humble to acknowledge that, looking back, you might have left some good friends behind. Take the initiative to reach out to them, their friendship is too precious to be wasted.

Nurturer your relationships, create new bonds with people that have the same priorities in life! True friendship, being there for each other first and far most, creating memories, stories, creating a long life tribe!

My tribe is small, but believe, they are my wonderful family!

Don’t you ever give up on your happiness, there is always a way. Fight for it, change it, get out of your comfort zone, and make your happiness your priority! You got this!

Thank you for meeting me halfway.

A positive mind leads to a peaceful heart

Start today!

Set your mind to it, be consistent, make it your main goal and keep your focus. You’ll be amazed at the consequences!

When you have a positive mindset this is what happens:

-You’re always ready for a new challenge;

-You’re not afraid to fail and start over;

-You’re always ready to learn;

-You’re always focused;

-You’re consistent, resilient;

-You always have a goal, a purpose;

-You’re always calm, even in unexpected situations;

-You’re always clear minded;

-You’re self-confident;

-You have simple and objective perspectives!

This is why your heart is peaceful!

This can be your life, starting today! You got this!

Thank you for meeting me halfway.

How to increase your Self-Esteem

When we have a setback in our lives, either emotionally or professionally it takes a tow in our being. We can’t help but question our decisions, our beliefs, it shakes us. We cry, and it’s okay to cry, we are acknowledging and processing our feelings and that is actually a good thing because then we can move on, with no anxiety or frustration weighting on us.

Next step is moving on with our lives!

Regain confidence and conquer your happiness!

How? Changing!

So, to boost your self-esteem, and make you conquer all your goals and dreams, this is what you should do:

1.Think positive

First and the most important thing to do is to change your mindset. A positive mind is a peaceful mind. You are capable to achieve anything that your mindsets you to do, you can do it! You are important, you matter and you deserve all the good things that life has to offer. You have the ability to be focused, resilient and positive! You have the ability to achieve your goals without hurting or stepping on anyone else.

2. Learn to say “no”

Learn to say “no” without feeling guilty about it. Sometimes people tend to say “yes” to everything others ask, even when it’s harmful to themselves. They have this big urge to please others in order to be accepted. You don’t have to prove yourself to others.

You matter you deserve to be treated with the same respect that you give to others. You are as worthy as everybody else. You only allow in your life what is good, positive, and worthy.

3. Have it your own way

Don’t compare other people’s lives to yours. Be in harmony with yourself, find your purpose, your place and focus on your goals.

Everybody has their own path, focus on yours and how to achieve it.

What other people think about you is irrelevant and make sure the only people that matter in your life are the ones that are there for you all along, not questioning you, just supporting you all the way!

4. Broom yourself

Take the time to create routines and take care of yourself. When we shower in the morning, choose nice clothes, put on some make-up, even if your a man, put some nice hydrant cream after shaving! After pampering ourselves we feel motivated, ready for an amazing day, for new challenges! It boosts our confidence.

5. Follow your intuition

If you think about, you’ll realize that, along this amazing journey, you felt instantly drawn to a certain path, something inside was just screaming to go that way, right? That was your intuition.

Start to trust yourself more, gain confidence in your analyses, interpretations, resolutions, knowledgeable, and follow your intuition, because it will lead you through your life goals.

Be consistent in every step, be resilient, overcome the obstacles, the setbacks, keep positive. You’ve got this!

Thank you for meeting me halfway.

How to not be affected by toxic people

On an emotional level, it is fair to say that we all aim to be emotionally stable and balanced throughout the day, right? Well, somewhere along the way, when interacting with a co-worker, family member or a friend, we experience some emotional changes. Inexplicably, we are now emotionally stressed, impatient, extremely
riled up and upset.

How did this happen? 

The reality is, when we are interacting with negative, toxic people, we, unconsciously, are being controlled by their attitudes, we are feeling them as if they were our own. We start acting with the same negative emotions.

How do we change this pattern?   

We change it by, consistently, following these two simple steps:


1. Stop reacting
Negativity is not contagious, we don’t become negative just because somebody else wants us to be in a bad place in life. We actually do this to ourselves. Our mind just reacts to someone else’s feelings and emotions, assuming that they are our own. So, we need to change our mindset, gain control of our thoughts and feelings. We move beyond it.

By not reacting to other people’s energy, you are creating a barrier, you’re collapsing their negative energy field and you no longer allow that negative energy interfere with your mindset.


2. Take control
Take absolute control over your thoughts and emotions. Be consistent. We are not able to control the world around us, but we can control the way we perceive it and how we respond to it.

Remember, a strong mind is a peaceful mind.


I hope this post will help you and lead you to a better way of life.
Thank you for meeting me halfway. 

The Best Is Yet To Come

In a quick flashback you can see where you came from, what you’ve been through and how good you are now with what you achieved so far. So, looking ahead, even though you can’t control how things will progress, be certain of success because that’s what you’ve been achieving all along.

No matter what, you got this. One thing is certain: The best is yet to come.

Thank you for meeting me halfway

How to change your mindset

I have always lived with fear, imagining the worst scenarios, overthinking every decision, struggling just to get by. On the other hand, I was always able to laugh at my mistakes or embarrassing situations. Just an ordinary woman going through life with a beautiful daughter. So, why did I change? Well, a year ago I had a little scary situation with my health. I was a smoker, didn’t eat properly, basically I wasn’t taking good care of myself. So they found a clot on my left foot. The doctors were considering the possibility of removing my foot, it was a really scary experience. Right away I stopped smoking, changed my eating habits, started to exercise. All this took about 2 months before a doctor realized finally what was happening. In the meantime I had no blood circulation, my foot was cold, swollen and I was in massive pain. So it took a while until I started walking again. Through this process, I had the constantan unconditional love and support from my beautiful daughter!! She was by my side all the time, all the way, always with love, care, support!  She was 18 at the time! When I couldn’t walk she carried me, she bade me, she would wake at 5 am prepared breakfast so that I could have my medicine! She was amazing! She is amazing! My daughter was the only one who was there for me the whole time. . After 30 years of smoking, every member of the family was constantly saying that I wouldn’t stop smoking, that I wouldn’t be able to do it. For me, this was the trigger! Of course, I can! I can do whatever I want! My mind is strong! And all the time I had my daughter’s positive energy pulling me up,. making me mentally stronger every day!! Everything is relative, everything is so simple!! I chose the way I want to live this next half way of my life! So can you!! I choose to live a healthy life, with the people I love and that love me back, family related or not! I choose to see the good, appreciate the simple, what makes me happy, light, at peace, I choose to love myself, and this not being self-centered or selfish, it is respecting myself! Then everything started to fall into the right place!! Try it, start now! This is what I want you to start working on: you can do everything, you can make an amazing change! You can start now! Thank you for meeting me halfway!