Our minds are filled with millions of memories, some that are so dear to us, that just fills our hearts and souls with happiness!
There are, however, some memories that we wish we could erase them out of our minds forever.
When my daughter was born, I made a promise to myself, never to do to her all the things that made sad, when I was little.
If it was a bad experience for me, why would I do it to my child?
From the most simple actions, like making me wear a skirt when I went to school because I wouldn’t be able to play comfortably, or closing the bedroom door, and it would be completely dark. We all have memories, right? It’s just making sure to be breaking this strange cycle of “they did it to me, so I’m doing to you now”.
Being emphatic, making sure that we can put ourselves in someone else’s shoes, remind ourselves what was it look like for us, when we were that age, is a great step to break those bad cycles, those bad memories, and start new cycles, filled with positivity, and making our children’s lives so much easier. Communication is key, understanding their needs, there fears, and give them a peaceful, calm environment.
It’s our obligation as parents to listen to our children, to understand their point of view, not to underestimate them.
Make a change, break the negative cycle, and you will have in your child’s full trust in you.
This is transversal if someone is being rude to you, break that level by keeping the conversation polite or just walk away.
Don’t be afraid to be different than the crowd.
Be you, keep being your high education standers, treat others just like you want and deserve to be treated.
Make a change in your life, start fresh, eliminate negativity, get out of negative situations.
You deserve to be treated with the same respect that you treat others, so don’t settle for less!
Don’t stay in a place or situation where you are not comfortable, or where others make you feel unworthy!
Make sure to pass this message to your children, because they deserve the best!
Thank you for meeting me halfway.